Finding Friends on Bumble BFF
Not sponsored but my anxiety should be
So, uhh, making friends amiright?
This is one of those Post Grad experiences that they don’t warn you about. Unless your college friend group (if you even had that) somehow miraculously stayed in the same city and willingly stayed in touch with you or you move back to your hometown and are actually friends with people back home, or you managed to move to a new city and room with someone who has room for one more in their “it group,” you probably are also having a hard time making friends in your 20’s.
If any of those three outcomes happened to you, congratulations, if not, welcome to the friendless club.
It almost feels bizarre saying that you don’t have friends in your 20s. It never occurred to me that it would ever be an issue until the moment I sat in my room a month after graduation realizing that I could not seem to find a single contact to invite to the movies. Not one! How?!
So knowing that I would have the same situation when I moved to New York, I decided to download Bumble…
BFF.
Just downloading a “dating app” again gave me extreme anxiety, but going on the BFF feature was more stressful than I thought!
Friends are important. Incredibly important. I work hard to maintain the friendships I have because I care and love the people that I choose to be around. So I can’t just be willy nilly. But how do you set yourself up to sound like you’re a normal person and trying to not be desperate in that you just want someone to grab brunch with?
And what will they think of me? Will they like me? Since we are not bound by forced environments (ie. work or school), the stakes feel incredibly high. It would make me question that if all my past relationships are somehow bound only by the situations we were together in and have only held on out of guilt.
This is NOT easy.
Bumble BFF definitely feels like a safe space right now. The general consensus actually feels like we’re all desperate to make some new friends: they have cute photos of them going places and express the activities they like to do. It seems like this is a good start. A scary one, but a good start. And I genuinely hope I can make at least a friend or two out of this. It is just phenomenal to me that without this technology I might have had to have a poster on my back that says, “I need friends.”
If this goes well, I might just be a BumbleBFF ambassador.
Tell me, are you going through this too?
