Dating a Stutterer
Would you swipe left on someone if they said they had a stutter in their Bumble bio?
I was fortunate to have the opportunity to find that out last night. The NSA interns and I came up with an NSA Connects about dating, because let's be honest, who isn’t curious? The NSA Connects are various workshops/discussions that the company hosts to have more in-depth conversations about niche topics within the community. So being able to do something on dating was pretty exciting.
Here we are, all 20-somethings in different stages of our relationship status. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never had the chance to talk about what it’s been like for myself and I have no idea what tactics or experiences other PWS have had.
When we started the event, there were 23 people on the call, with only 5 videos on. 2 hours later, we still had 23 people and more videos on. I didn’t think we would be able to retain it!
The group of folks was so inspiring and conversational. They were vulnerable in the struggles behind disclosing on the first date. They gave optimism on confidently expressing your true self with your partner. They offered wisdom on how to talk with the family when in a long-term relationship. Most importantly, they reminded me of the love to give to yourself. To start on the path of acceptance and be friends with your stutter. To know that you are your worst critic. That most people are not seeing you the way you see yourself. That you shouldn’t have to hide or suppress this part of you to find love, to be happy.
I have dated before, but I never mentioned my stutter. I never wanted to be so vulnerable to reveal that part of me. But I was given the confidence and the reassurance that I can be my whole self and still be loved all the same.
Those who were on the call and shared these impactful words of wisdom, you know who you are. Thank you.
